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It’s Never Too Late to Be What You Might Have Been

It's Never Too Late to Be

“It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” ~ George Eliot

Over the past two months, I’ve had many discussions with clients, colleagues, and friends who are at a major crossroad in their life, both personally and professionally, which is resulting in an intense period of reflection. They’re feeling stuck, confused, unmotivated, and unable to connect with what might be ahead of them on their life’s journey. There’s a feeling of being “a late arrival” to their own life – to a degree that causes them to wonder if they’ve missed an opportunity.

Many are pondering an array of questions, such as:

  • How did I get here – in this place of darkness, confusion, and wonder?
  • I see nothing ahead of me, so is this it?
  • What does this stuckness mean – and how do I sort through it?
  • How do I make sense of my life and the journey I’ve traveled?
  • What do I do with all the lessons I’ve learned and the gifts I’ve received – and what do I let go of?
  • Where do I go from here?

For all of these individuals, the most interesting thing about this crossroad is what has brought them to it. In some way, shape, or form – they’re all facing a major life transition. And it has come to them at a time that many would call “middle age.”

The words “middle age” can mean any time between the span of 40 and 60 years old, depending on how one might view it. It often marks a transitional period in our lives where our bodies begin to noticeably change – and we find ourselves questioning our circumstances, and life in general, a bit more than we ever have.

For some, it may be a divorce that caught them by surprise – or a sudden layoff from a job they’ve held for 10, 20 or 30 years. For others, the transition could stem from facing an empty nest for the first time as their children go off to embark on their own journeys in life – or maybe it’s the passing of an elderly parent. And then there are those who are having internal shifts that they don’t fully comprehend, like menopause or the loss of some part of their personal identity.

Whatever the case may be, it’s stirring energies of confusion and doubt – and in some cases, it’s triggering old fears that are associated with a loss of control. Going into the unknown without a plan of action can be quite fear-inducing for those who have always considered themselves organized and on top of things.

And while some might call this a “midlife crisis” – I prefer to call it a midlife opportunity.

It’s a great time to reflect on the journey you’ve taken in life, fully allowing yourself to receive the gifts and lessons that came to you along the way. It’s an opportunity to connect the dots in your life, seeing how each experience led to the next – and what you gained as a result.

When we take a closer look at our own life path – it’s a real eye-opener! ~ What an awareness – to follow the dots and very clearly see HOW we arrived at where we are now and its purpose in serving us as we move forward. It’s what brings us to the pivotal crossroad of transition – our underlying desire to understand the WHY and how it fits into our larger life purpose.

And the magical piece of this – is the discovery of what part of this journey is waiting for us in “later life.”

It’s an opportunity to feel alive again – with purpose and passion. It’s a chance to relive a childhood dream, this time in a more grown-up way. It’s a time of great wisdom wanting to emerge through a more powerful and impactful lens.

So what part of your dream has been reserved for “later in life?”

As English writer, George Eliot once said, “It’s never too late to be what you might have been.”

There’s a seat still being reserved – just for you!

Allow yourself, in this crossroad of transition, to look to the left and see a sign that says, “Please wait to be seated.” Then gently turn to the right and see a sign that says, “Please seat yourself.”

Go ahead – give yourself permission to take your own seat – the one’s that’s been exclusively reserved for you. It’s a golden opportunity to become who you’re destined to be – stepping into what the Universe has been grooming you for.

And if you’re feeling at all hesitant about taking your seat, I’d be honored to be your maitre d’ – guiding you into your seat with grace and ease, and with a depth that is truly mind-blowing.

You can read more about this special service here: Purple Possibility Diamond

“It’s never too late to be what you might have been.”  ~ It’s truly your time! 🙂

Tina M. Games is the author of Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery (an interactive book with an accompanying deck of 54 journaling prompt cards). As a certified creativity and life purpose coach, and a gifted intuitive, she is the “Moonlight Muse” for women who want to tap into the “full moon within” and claim their authentic self, both personally and professionally. Through her signature coaching programs, based on the phases of the moon, Tina gently guides women from darkness to light as they create an authentic vision filled with purpose, passion and creative expression. She lives on Cape Cod in Massachusetts with her husband and their two children.

9 Comments

  • Christine

    Hi Tina,
    Not only do you have a wonderful gift for writing but you share wisdom in such gentle and and loving way. I’m so glad our paths have crossed.
    Best wishes,
    Christine

  • Mateja

    Wonderful topic Tina! I love that you encourage people to see mid-life as a time for renewal and not something to feel badly about. I am a living proof that for many life only beings at 40s’. I stopped trying to please everyone and instead asked myself what I want. By the way, we have a similar title for the book; mine is “My Journey to Self-Discovery, A Memoir of my Slovenian Roots and Growth in America. ” Blessings.

  • Patricia

    Tina,

    I always love your posts! And I see myself in this so much…I’ve been redirecting my life, I’m giving myself permission to take my own seat, the one that was reserved just for me.

    It’s been a roller coaster but a beautiful journey, that includes meeting lovely people like you!

    I’m so happy I gave myself permission to want what I wanted and to execute my birthright of being happy, but most importantly, to be who I came here to be 🙂

    Hugs,
    Patricia

  • Dorothy Fitzer

    Hey Tina – as usual, you had me at the opening line;)
    I sooooo believe in unlocking a person/Soul’s potential at any age!
    I know you have your mommy groups. Ever thought of a Moonlight Muse Grandma Group?
    I would TOTALLY tell me mom to join;)

  • Chelsea Hanson

    Great article as usual Tina! You tackle such important issues that so many of us face – and what could not be more important than living your life purpose legacy! I am so grateful that you have the skills and expertise to help people in finding their purpose, so they don’t have to have an unlived life!

  • Jill Greinke

    Great post Tina! You have a wonderful gift of reaching out to people and helping them find their life purpose.

  • Teena

    Tina – I just love the infusion of your wise soul that brings your writing to life! Wow – I am in a midlife opportunity and I have to say I feel I am at the peak of my life. This is my decade of wisdom and I look forward to what may lie ahead as I come to many crossroads and go through the many magnificent transitions of life. Your Purple Possibility Diamond Program looks AMAZING!

    Teena
    http://www.coupletherapyconnection.com

  • veronica

    Wonderfully validating and nourishing for the soul Tina! One feels supported in their transition and even anticipating new arenas. Love the Eliot quote – now is the time and now is the reason. Your message is clear and and supportive. Having a heartfelt guide can make all the difference when undergoing our transformations to a more expansive and vibrant life!

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