Do You Feel Stuck in the Middle of Nowhere?

Moonrise DesertA few years ago, there was an American television commercial that showed a sports utility vehicle driving through a remote mountain scene. And the voice-over said, “You can find yourself in the middle of nowhere – or in the middle of nowhere you can find yourself.”

This phrase seems to capture the sentiment of so many people in my life right now – clients, colleagues, friends, even me.

Some are dealing with major life transitions that feel painfully uncomfortable – while others are preparing for new beginnings and fresh starts that involve a sense of unknowingness about the future.

If we take a closer look at the first part of the phrase, “You can find yourself in the middle of nowhere” – we may feel like we’re  in the wilderness, far away from the usual landmarks. Our surroundings may feel barren, empty, or uninhabited.

In a sense, there is no “there” there.

And if you take it a step further, you might feel lost and unsure of where to go next – or how to get out of where you are now.

It might feel confusing or a little scary, triggering a fear of the unknown or perhaps a deep sense of loss. And the indecisiveness about how to move beyond this “nowhere” place may feel dark and lonely.

When we look at the second part of the phrase, “or in the middle of nowhere, you can find yourself” – we may feel something totally different.

For example – when you find yourself in the wilderness, you have the opportunity to experience new insights about who you are and where you are going. This option has the energy of a vision quest or a retreat.

Being in this new place in the middle of nowhere is like traveling to a different land. The contrast between you and your life – and this new place – gives you opportunities to make new insights, new perspectives, and new awarenesses. The shift in space and time that happens when you enter a new land, a new frontier, or uncharted territory – allows you to make the leap to a new vision of and for yourself.

This presents a larger question that’s worthy of pondering.

Does being in the middle of nowhere trigger feelings of being lost? Or does it trigger a sense of wonder in you?

As we move into another new moon phase, I’m mindful that when one door closes, another one opens.

During a new moon phase, the sky is completely black, other than the surrounding stars. It’s the point in every month when the moon takes a retreat and begins to grow again, redoubling her light and reflecting new creative energy on the world.

This phase marks the ideal time for connecting with our inner selves and our heart’s desire. By looking for the “light” – and knowing that it’s there, somewhere, waiting to be discovered – we can reach a place where our personal reflection begins to shed its own light.

New moons always bring new beginnings that stem from the internal desires we have bubbling just under the surface that are ready to take flight in the outer world. It marks an ideal time to acknowledge anything within us that’s been dormant and is now ready for more attention.

As you ponder the various parts of your life that are in need of more understanding, focus, and clarity, allow yourself to feel your way through it.

We often run from the emotional side of things, looking for ways to intellectualize what might be happening in our lives – and then we get spun up in over-analyzing to the point of draining ourselves of our own self-worth.

During this new moon phase, I invite you into an emotional connection with your own intuitive wisdom. Allow her to lead you out of anything that feels dark. By being fully present to your own voice, you’ll be able to connect the dots of light that are already present in your life – the ones you’re not allowing yourself to see.

Make the most of your “middle of nowhere” moments by:

  • Giving yourself time and space to be still.
  • Letting go of your need to know the answer. Shift your emphasis to knowing you don’t know right now.
  • Stimulating your soul – with poems, quotes, books, mediation, deep conversations, and long walks.
  • Asking yourself new questions, then stopping to listen to the answers.
  • Sitting in a space of willingness to see new images, hear new ideas, gain new insights, shift your perception.
  • Recording what you discover, taking your time to allow various layers of insights to come to you.

Use what you discover during this time to rewrite how you see yourself. Sometimes just one insight can shift not only how you see yourself, but how you want to live your life. This new thought could become the kernel of the vision yet to come.

Here’s to magical new beginnings that are inspired through the energy of being in the middle of nowhere. 

About Tina Games

Tina M. Games is the author of Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery (an interactive book with an accompanying deck of 54 journaling prompt cards). As a certified creativity and life purpose coach, and a gifted intuitive, she is the “Moonlight Muse” for women who want to tap into the “full moon within” and claim their authentic self, both personally and professionally. Through her signature coaching programs, based on the phases of the moon, Tina gently guides women from darkness to light as they create an authentic vision filled with purpose, passion and creative expression. She lives on Cape Cod in Massachusetts with her husband and their two children.

8 Responses to Do You Feel Stuck in the Middle of Nowhere?

  1. veronica July 23, 2014 at 10:33 pm #

    Terrific blog post Tina! I especially identify with feeling your way as opposed to intellectualizing. As a psychotherapist this is a major turning point for many – to feel your feelings and a sense of freedom and relief this brings. The reminder of the new moon and how we can best utilize this phase is excellent – thank you!

  2. Cher July 24, 2014 at 12:07 am #

    Tina,

    This is a great way of looking at opportunity found in those moments of nowhere. As motivational speaker Wayne Dyer translates this word to “now here,” similarly we can think of those moments in nowhere as having an opportunity that is now here. Thank you for these empowering techniques.

    Cher Gunderson
    Masteryouraccent.com

  3. Chelsea Hanson July 24, 2014 at 12:25 am #

    Tina – thanks for giving us inspiration in how to make the most of those middle of nowhere moments!

  4. Vickie LeGare July 24, 2014 at 2:25 am #

    Very insightful Tina. Learning to “feel their way”, doesn’t come naturally to everyone so this will be very helpful.

    Vickie
    Balanced Energy

  5. Mateja July 24, 2014 at 9:55 pm #

    Great post Tina! Very inspirational. I think it is not always easy to find a way out sometimes so thank you for sharing your tips. Being open is so important!

  6. martha July 24, 2014 at 10:44 pm #

    I love this post and so needed this today. Did you write this for me?! I’m in major transition in all aspects of my life and it is so healing for me the tips that your provided, even though I know these things, it is a huge reminder and reinforces for me that is “OK” not to know the answer. The other thing is to really trust in Divine Guidance and letting go of the out come.
    Thanks Tina!

  7. Jill Greinke July 25, 2014 at 12:58 am #

    Thank you for sharing your tips on how to handle our no where moments.

  8. Teena July 25, 2014 at 1:06 pm #

    LOL Tina I love this post because I have spent a lot of time literally in the “middle of nowhere” in remote wilderness areas of Alaska. I remember this was initially very scary for me. It was unfamiliar and it provided the perfect opportunity for my Conditioned Self to get very loud. I did feel lost. Then I began to explore to open up to the beauty that surrounded me and my natural sense of wonder began to overtake the lost feelings. What I learned from this is that when I feel lost inside (even in a familiar environment) I drop into that sense of wonder and open to the new….I usually find my way and on the other side is clear sailing. 🙂

    Thank you for another fantastic post!

    Teena
    http://www.coupletherapyconnection.com

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